Caregiving: We are programmed to want our kids to grow up and live full happy lives. To become the person who causes them worry and stress is the last thing any of us want. That said, if you can’t turn to your family, who can you turn to? Older people want to know they will be loved and cared for when they no longer can fend for themselves. In the real world, their care is liking going to fall to family or “chosen family” meaning their friends. Reports – (pdf)